The wait is on now for Mike's bowels to start working. In less than 5 hours following surgery he walked to the door of his room. Six hours after that we walked down the hall together. When the docs and day nurses did their rounds this morning and told him he would need to walk today there was some surprise that he already had. I guess he's above average, but of course, I already knew that.
I am not the least bit surprised that Mike is determined to get better as quickly as possible. If moving around more will kick things into gear then that's what he's going to do despite any pain he feels. As he puts it, "there are sick people here" and he doesn't plan on sticking around any longer than necessary.
Being an hour from home is tricky. I have two hotel rooms in town for my Dad, Mike's mom and the kids. With Mike's last surgery I stayed overnight in his room every night, but the room here is so tiny, that although I would be allowed to stay I'm not sure there is actually room for me to sleep unless it's in a folding chair. Instead I stayed until about 10pm, went to the hotel for a few hours of sleep and returned to the hospital at 5am. I am quite thankful there is a 24 hour Starbucks between the hotel and hospital!
Today the kids will visit in the morning and then Dad will take Cal back home for a birthday party. Not sure what the rest of the weekend will look like for them, but it is such a huge help to have Dad and my mother-in-law here to help with the kids. Just another one of the many things I am grateful for.
I've also thought about my Mom a lot. Yesterday was three months to the day that she was taken off of life-support. I've wondered about the concept of having the person that died "with you" or "watching over you". It sounds good in theory, but I have never really had a tangible feeling of Mom being with me. I think was expecting something more concrete rather than simply a sense of her being here. Like an obvious shift of some kind that she's making an "appearance". I've come to the conclusion, at least for me, that Mom being with me is a constant not something that just happens when I face a difficult situation like Mike's surgery. She's with me when I am relaxed and happy just as much as when I'm anxious or worried. I guess it's similar to the same sense I have that God is always with me. I miss Mom and wish so much that she was still physically here, but I'll have to accept on faith that she IS still with me.
On June 25, 2010, at age 37, my husband was diagnosed with colon cancer. Following a right-hemicolectomy, genetic testing determined the cause was due to HNPCC/Lynch Syndrome. On December 9, 2011 he had a subtotal colectomy.
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Saturday, December 10, 2011
Friday, December 2, 2011
How time flies...
I would say, how times flies when you're having fun, but that would be a bit of a stretch. Yes there have been fun times, but like everything else in life the not so great stuff has a way of reminding me that I never know what's coming next. It has been more than 5 months since I last posted and yet again it seems that a lifetime has happened in that amount of time.
When all of this started with Mike, writing on this blog was an enormous relief for me. I had support from friends and family, but unless your husband is diagnosed with cancer and then with a heriditary genetic reason for getting cancer in the first place I don't think anyone can truly understand. They can empathize and love you and support you, but can only imagine what it must be like.
The Friday of Labor Day weekend, my Mom was in ICU in a drug induced coma on a ventilator & feeding tube only three weeks after we had all been together in San Diego for a family vacation. After a week of practically living at the hospital with her, my family made the selfless decision to take her off of life support. Mom died on September 9, 2011. I wonder why I didn't turn to the blog then like I did with Mike's diagnosis? Maybe it was because I was surrounded by family and we were all going through the same thing together. My brother lost his mom, my dad lost his wife of 41 years. We all shared similar versions of the same grief and disbelief. It could be that I just wasn't ready to share my grief with the entire world (or whatever small percentage of people I don't know that actually read this blog).
A couple of weeks after Mom died, Mike & I met with a Colorectal surgeon to discuss the pros and cons of having Mike's entire colon removed. The surgeon's initial reaction was a very cautious "I think that's a pretty extreme way to go". However, he did admit that Mike's case was a bit extraordinary and he wanted to discuss it with a board of his peers who are also experts in the area of colorectal surgery, colon cancer & genetics. Several weeks later, much to our surprise, Dr Heise called to schedule surgery.
With Lynch Syndrome Mike already has an ongoing 80% chance of getting colon cancer. The main concern, however, is the polyp that was removed at the time of Mike's initial diagnosis. The polyp had a very similar makeup as the primary tumor (very aggressive, high instability, etc) and was removed by traditional snaring of the polyp. The concern is that cancer will occur in that spot, but will grow outside of the colon rather than to the interior thereby making a colonoscopy useless in detecting it. Because it has already been almost a year and a half since it was removed, the team did not want to wait any longer than necessary to remove the rest of Mike's colon.
So, now the countdown to CR-day (colon removal). The procedure is a subtotal colectomy with ileoanal pouch (j-pouch). Basically the surgeon will make a resevoir (pouch) with the end of the small intestine and attach it to the rectum, which means no bag. This will be a more indepth surgery than the first one and recovery will take longer as well. It could be 6 months to a year for Mike's body to adjust to a new normal routine. For a guy who works outdoors this could get interesting.
At least we now have a "2nd bathroom" at home. OK, that's a HUGE stretch. What we have is a 5-gallon bucket in the basement with a toilet seat attached to it. Fortunately the kids are still young enough to think it's a pretty cool set-up. Yep, the fun never ends around here.
When all of this started with Mike, writing on this blog was an enormous relief for me. I had support from friends and family, but unless your husband is diagnosed with cancer and then with a heriditary genetic reason for getting cancer in the first place I don't think anyone can truly understand. They can empathize and love you and support you, but can only imagine what it must be like.
The Friday of Labor Day weekend, my Mom was in ICU in a drug induced coma on a ventilator & feeding tube only three weeks after we had all been together in San Diego for a family vacation. After a week of practically living at the hospital with her, my family made the selfless decision to take her off of life support. Mom died on September 9, 2011. I wonder why I didn't turn to the blog then like I did with Mike's diagnosis? Maybe it was because I was surrounded by family and we were all going through the same thing together. My brother lost his mom, my dad lost his wife of 41 years. We all shared similar versions of the same grief and disbelief. It could be that I just wasn't ready to share my grief with the entire world (or whatever small percentage of people I don't know that actually read this blog).
A couple of weeks after Mom died, Mike & I met with a Colorectal surgeon to discuss the pros and cons of having Mike's entire colon removed. The surgeon's initial reaction was a very cautious "I think that's a pretty extreme way to go". However, he did admit that Mike's case was a bit extraordinary and he wanted to discuss it with a board of his peers who are also experts in the area of colorectal surgery, colon cancer & genetics. Several weeks later, much to our surprise, Dr Heise called to schedule surgery.
With Lynch Syndrome Mike already has an ongoing 80% chance of getting colon cancer. The main concern, however, is the polyp that was removed at the time of Mike's initial diagnosis. The polyp had a very similar makeup as the primary tumor (very aggressive, high instability, etc) and was removed by traditional snaring of the polyp. The concern is that cancer will occur in that spot, but will grow outside of the colon rather than to the interior thereby making a colonoscopy useless in detecting it. Because it has already been almost a year and a half since it was removed, the team did not want to wait any longer than necessary to remove the rest of Mike's colon.
So, now the countdown to CR-day (colon removal). The procedure is a subtotal colectomy with ileoanal pouch (j-pouch). Basically the surgeon will make a resevoir (pouch) with the end of the small intestine and attach it to the rectum, which means no bag. This will be a more indepth surgery than the first one and recovery will take longer as well. It could be 6 months to a year for Mike's body to adjust to a new normal routine. For a guy who works outdoors this could get interesting.
At least we now have a "2nd bathroom" at home. OK, that's a HUGE stretch. What we have is a 5-gallon bucket in the basement with a toilet seat attached to it. Fortunately the kids are still young enough to think it's a pretty cool set-up. Yep, the fun never ends around here.
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